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Mon May 5

it only gets worse every time i see you

sent to an old boss from when i was an intern. he’s 12 years older and was certainly just taking advantage of a younger more naive me. we “dated” for 2 years. god. what a mess.
los angeles, california
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I wanted to thank you again for last night, I had a really good time. And also just give you an update on the trials and tribulations of my quarter-life-crisis-filled girl heart.

I know you told me very early on that you are not interested in any kind of anything relationship-wise and I respect that and appreciate that you were honest with me, but after about 2 years I ought to be honest with you too. I got attached. Pretty early on, and pretty quickly and it only gets worse every time I see you. I really like who you are and I like being around you and I guess that’s about all it takes for me. I’ve done a pretty good job of ignoring it for a while but I don’t know how much longer that will last - just to give you fair warning.

I hope your pitch goes well today. Let me know if you want to celebrate or commiserate the outcome sometime.